When I read the papers, I am saddened at the number of people who apparently abandon their marriages. Now I know when you read about somebody doing that you can never get the full picture, because there is, of course, much going on behind the scenes that we cannot know. But stop for a second and consider, that when we get married, we make vows and promises to each other.
We promise to love, cherish, remain faithful and protect, or a combination of things like that. It all adds up to the fact that we made a covenant with each other. In marriage, a covenant is a binding agreement made between two people. Made not just for the good times, but also for when it gets difficult. So we say ‘in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer’. We give each other rings to seal that covenant and these rings can be seen by everyone we meet. Those rings signal that we joined with somebody - so hands-off!
Children
Also, this union produces much-wanted children who are an integral part of us. They know nothing else but being a part of this covenantal family life. When you break your covenant with each other the effect on those children is profound and affects them much deeper than many of us realise. They can end up with two homes where they are shunted back and forth. Step-parents may enter the scene and they may end up with different standards and cultures which can be very confusing to a developing child.
Unless we are focused, difficulties lead to temptations
When we encounter difficulties, this can lead to dreams and longings for a fresh start with somebody else. If you read my book, ‘Oneness’ you will find that Mary and I were deeply unhappy for several years due to ignorance and a lack of understanding. I well remember when a lady told me that she had fallen in love with me. Oh, the temptation! Fortunately, I remembered that I had made promises to Mary and had two wonderful children and knew that if I made one move in responding to that lady’s declaration, not only would I ruin Mary’s life but would also powerfully affect the lives of our children.
So, put up with it and remain miserable?
No! We learnt and gained understanding, and you can discover what we learnt in my book, why not order a copy today? As one reader said:
'Highly recommended - Bob offers honest and wise advice from his own experience that will benefit any couple, regardless of the stage in their relationship.'
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